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{Struggling to Conceive} How do you deal with the struggle?


Earlier this week I received a private message from a young woman who is just like so many of us....struggling to conceive. She whole-heartedly asked....

My husband and I have been trying to conceive since March. I am already getting discouraged and I was wondering if you had any scriptures to offer? I have been praying.... The questions always end that way.... I have been praying. And it is always so very hard for me to respond when someone is so discouraged...especially if they feel like prayer isn't working. I know how it is...I've been there, too...
However, there is one response that I've always been able to offer. And it may not be what you suspect. So to you, mama, and to all of the other wonderful women who are not yet mama's....here's how I "deal" with the struggle.

Honestly, there are so many scriptures that I could give you, but I have found through my journey that none of them specifically pertain to me, as a struggling to conceive mama. With that said, the word of the Lord in itself has been such comfort to me over these past couple of years. While I certainly still pray that the Lord's will be done in our family (whether growing it or not), I find more comfort in His scriptures that command me to be patient, to be anxious for nothing, and in everything...give thanks...no matter what the outcome. I have had to change my personal attitude through scripture in order to find comfort in the struggle. Some of those scriptures are..... 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." Philippians 4:6-7 "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:8-9 "Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you." Romans 12:2 "And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God."
I have found that it is so much easier to pray for God's will, rather than to pray for mine. His ways are not our ways, and His grace and peace and love surpass all understanding. I have not given up hope in having another child, but I have changed the way in which I pray and respond to my desire to have another child. I've also considered adoption, which I never ever thought I would do...I've always been terrified of the thought for some reason. One of the other things that I've learned over the past 2 years is that there are so many things in our lives that can affect fertility, and I truly believe God designed our bodies a certain way, and when we do not take care of them, our bodies know that our womb's cannot (or should not) support a child at that time. So, with that said, I'm on a very slow journey of cutting out the bad things in our lives and changing our eating habits, chemical products that we use, and trying to go back to the "all natural" way of living. It's worth a shot, right? And after all, it's not like you'll be losing either way.






The seasons will come and go. New life will come too, be it in the form of a child, or the form of a renewed spirit. Joy will make a home in your heart, if you let it. The struggle will become less and less, and the job He has set before you will become more and more apparent. ...and it will.get.easier. Do not rid yourself of a blessing if God has a job for you to do in the here in now, even if that job isn't what you want it to be right now. In the beginning, you'll feel like you have nothing left to give. But oh, what a lie that is....and what an amazing life our Savior has in store for you.

And in the end, if you hold that precious little baby in your arms after all, what a miracle testimony you will have.

And if not....He is still good.

Keep your chin up, sweetheart.....God is doing amazing things in your life, no matter what the outcome.
xoxo,        amy

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