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{Motherhood} | We live in a society that tells us.....

I hate smart phones. I hate anything that has "smart" in front of it when it comes to technology.

I hear people say all of the time, "smart phones are only as smart as the user". And while it's true in a scientific perspective, it's so wrong on an emotional and spiritual one.

Hold up, wait a minute. (put a little love in it!)....I'll pretend I didn't just go there....

I'm not telling you to throw your smart phones out the window. In fact, please don't.

I'm not telling you to get rid of facebook.

And I'm certainly not telling you that you're a bad parent.

But here's what I am telling you....

We live in a society that tells us it is better to watch our children grow up through the lens of a camera phone than it is to watch them grow up with our own eyes. They're right there in front of you, and yet, you're still watching the "real thing" happen on your phone screen rather than putting it down and being all there.

We live in a society that makes us believe we’re good parents simply because social media friends tell us we are. That we're doing "all that we can" for our children. They also tell us we're beautiful, funny, worth it....and all those things are great, because many times we need to hear them. But do they really know us? Are we lying to ourselves?

We live in a society that urges us to put work before lego building, and text messages before answering our child’s simple question.

Mommy? Daddy? Are you listening?

We live in a society that tells us it's fun and "ok" to "harmlessly" flirt with another person on our facebook friends list, when our spouse is sitting in the chair right next to us, after putting in a hard days work, simply wanting some peace and quiet. It tells us that it's easier to release our emotions that way, rather than just having a heart to heart conversation with your spouse.

It tells us that the grass is always greener on the other side, but leaves out the fact that, if you were to just water your own grass, I bet your field would be so much more beautiful and healthy.

We live in a society that makes us believe we need big houses, big incomes, and big everything....because we have to be better than everyone else. Yet it regrets to inform us that the simple life is the most abundant life....

We live in a society that places mothers against other mothers, because certainly, you can provide for your kids better than they can provide for theirs. And all of your twitter followers must know about it....

We live in a society that say's reading "50 Shades of Grey"...or gray...whatever it's called....is acceptable, along with daydreaming about sparkly vampires...

We live in a society that says it's ok to work all day and all night -- it's ok to never see your kids and spend quality and quantity time with them, because you're taking care of them financially. That if they love their babysitter that they see every day, even when you're home, you're "blessed".

We live in a society that makes us think Bubble Guppies and Seasame Street can better educate our children than sending them outside for an hour to play in the dirt. Bubble Guppies apparently make excellent babysitters as well....

We live in a society that says "it's ok, you can be a better spouse or parent tomorrow....there's still time to change", instead of shaking us to the core and saying, "what if tomorrow is too late...what if the damage is already done..."

We live in a society that says searching for scriptures online when you need them (most likely to get back at someone on facebook), is just as efficient as reading the Bible every morning before the kids wake up. That the word of God should revolve around your schedule....rather than your schedule revolving around the word of God.

We live in a society that says posting 10 "selfies" a day is a normal form of self expression, and if you call a fellow Christian out for being "stuck on themselves", it turns into a "you're just mad because you're jealous" argument, where all their selfie loving friends gang up on you...in the name of "Jesus". Oh, and they also let you know that you're the "type of Christian" that makes people not want to go to church.....right?.....followed by a status that says "I've learned that some people just won't like me, and that's ok, because they don't understand me and my love for God, #realchristianity #underthenewcovenant ".

Sweet heart, your selfie, pop culture loving self has nothing to do with the new covenant.....

We live in a society that makes bloggers think they are perfect in every way when they talk about these things, when in reality, we're preaching to ourselves....

We live in a society that should have nothing to do with our households, our spouses, our children, our relationships, our food at the breakfast table, our babysitters, or our fingertips -- and yet, it rules them all.

What are you going to do to change it....

Or better yet.....

Do we even want to change it?

Be a great parent, not a good one. Be a spectacular spouse, even if your spouse doesn't act gracious in return. Wherever you are, be "all there", not halfway listening and halfway updating your status, checking your work email, or surfing pinterest.

Normal Christianity is putting down the cell phone....canceling out of the "work"....and putting aside ego's and pride.

Normal Christianity is putting God first, your spouse second, your children third, and your facebook selfie and self promotion last.

Christ like Christianity is tending to your household, and praising your sweet Jesus all day long, without stopping to consider whether or not you should blog about it.

Christ like Christianity is the simple moments that you'll never get back, when you say "I think I'll leave my camera at home", and just "be".

Normal Christianity is listening to your husband read Bible stories to your four year old every night at bed time...and feeling your heart well up in pride of the Godly man that you married....and then telling him how much you appreciate him.

Normal Christianity is stopping everything you're doing during a moment of temptation, and saying, but my God is bigger.

Society has nothing to do with normal Christianity.....not.one.thing.

“And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as front lets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” [Deuteronomy 6:6-9] 
"I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind," Romans 12:1-2 
"And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men," Colossians 3:23 
"For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. " Romans 12:3
"Therefore, when you do a charitable deed, do not sound a trumpet before you as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory from men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your charitable deed may be in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will Himself reward you openly." Matthew 6:2-4

"Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer; distributing to the needs of the saints, given to hospitality.

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion.

Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “'Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,' says the Lord. Therefore
'If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
If he is thirsty, give him a drink;
For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.'

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." Romans 12:9-21


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